You've done the wedding planning, said "I do" and now it begins – the journey of a lifetime. Here is a list of 15 things ALL newlyweds need to know.
Hey there! I'm Caroline Henry, a newlywed (going on 3 weeks since the wedding, so I'm basically an expert, right?!) and an employee for The NewlyWed Box. This month's box is all about communication, and let me tell you... I KNOW the struggle. When you first move in together as a married couple, communicating is definitely not as simple as you'd think it'd be. Or at least, that's how it's been for me and my husband, and maybe you can relate.
“You don’t really listen to me and my opinion doesn’t really matter. I mean, you’re just gonna do what you want to do anyway,” my wife would say, never looking me in the eye.
I cannot tell you how many times my wife has been bothered by something I did or said that stayed on her mind all day long. Over and over it plays in her mind… “Why did he say that?”, “What was he thinking?”, “He made me feel like this…”, “What he did bothered me because…”, “He must’ve meant something different”, “How does this affect our children?”and on and on.
Alright, here’s the thing. My husband and I had been dating for over four years before we got married. There were a lot of conversations, a lot of arguments, a lot of learning, and a lot of love in those four years! When we got married, I thought everything was going to be complete and total bliss, especially the honeymoon!
There’s nothing worse than getting into the same argument, again and again and again. Amirite? The sheer repetition is enough to drive one MAD. And sadly, that tends to happen quite a bit in marriage. When we get really upset, we can go from zero to 60 in two seconds flat. We don’t want to fight. We don’t want to be angry. But WE ARE LIVID. And ya know what? We have every right to be! But.
How do you communicate? Are you soft-spoken or loud? Do you tend to shy away from conflict or embrace it wholeheartedly? Has anybody ever described you as sarcastic? When you are angry, are you more likely to fly off the handle or wait until you are calm to address the issue?