The Newlywed Box for March was all about money—a topic that often comes up in arguments. This box had some financial-struggle story examples, date ideas, and other fun things to just bring up conversations about money in a fun and open way.
The story examples featured six ways money can cause drama in your marriage, and how to solve it. One example was a couple splitting bills and debts down the middle, or allocating them so that both partners felt it was fair; then afterwards each person can do whatever they want with their leftover money.
This “divide and conquer” technique may work for some people, but it can build resentment of the individual purchases made over time. If you do it this way and it works for you, please leave a comment below—I am always curious on how couples handle their bank accounts together!
The box had a card listed with ideas to help others, together. Some examples given were serving dinner at a soup kitchen; spending time visiting the animals at an animal shelter (I did that and took home a dog, so be careful!); or reading to children at a school or daycare. The other side of the card had ideas that don’t break the bank, such as spending the afternoon relaxing at your library; taking a nature hike; and making a 5-star dinner at home.
A magnetic shopping pad was included, and I love these! I put it on my fridge and made a list before grocery shopping. It helped me not to forget anything, but more importantly: stay on track!
Something cute that the box included was Lunaria seeds, a.k.a. the “money plant.” I am really excited to grow these, as I have been trying my hand at gardening these days.
Another fun thing included in the box was money soap. This soap contains real money inside! I was tempted to just break it open and get to the bill, but my husband wants me to practice patience and just wait. ;p
The last thing the box included was a card game called “Habitudes.” I highly recommend this for new couples, as it really categorizes how a person manages their money. Each person reads the card and places it in one of three piles: “that’s me,” “that’s not me,” or “sometimes, it depends.” Afterwards, the person takes the “that’s me” pile and flips the cards over, organizing them by color. Each color is a different personality trait, such as carefree, security, or giving. Then the person reads the info card on that trait about their strength and weaknesses.
For example, my dominant trait was “planning,” which says that I view money as a way to help achieve my goals. I tend to buy items I really want that will retain value. A challenge I might face is that I might spend money on things that do not fit my budget when I am with others. It’s good to know how your partner thinks about spending money, and it might clear up some former arguments—and help prevent future fights, as well.
Money is something dwells and consumes the mind. It can create evil, or produce good. How one handles it is not only important for themselves; it’s important for the people around them. The best thing you can do is maintain an open communication and have an understanding on how you and your partner spend money.
Jeremy and Jessica met in a school cafeteria while studying abroad in Germany in 2013. After dating for two years, Jeremy asked her to marry him while they were in a hot air balloon watching a beautiful sunrise in Temecula, California. They got married in June 2017 on a pomegranate and lavender farm surrounded by family and friends. Since then, they live and work in Southern California and enjoy camping at the beach, eating cold pizza, dressing up their corgi-mix dog as a small child, and navigating the ups and downs of marriage.
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